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SD64, the ongoing saga
Not a whole lot more to relate about my grifter SD64 but an example of her manipulative qualities. As you might recall, I learned last month that she's been renting out the condo I bought. Although I charged her $400 monthly, it still cost me about $800 month More details have come to light : she's had the tenant in there since 2021 and has been charging him $240 per week. We made the decision to sell it
YSS is a realtor out of state but is working with a realtor here. He stepped up to handle it all last month. He's working with the tenant to get him out but has the compassion not to evict somebody over the holidays. He told the tenant not to pay SD64 anymore, to save it for a security deposit. He told SD64 not to collect from the tenant anymore and not to call DH88 for money. Told her she's a grown woman, stop living off Dad.
I talked with YSS yesterday, asking for a date when the tenant will be out. Turns out SD64 has still been collecting weekly rent, says it's money he owes her. YSS says this guy sounds like a good but naive guy (ya think?). Told him to definitely not pay her any more.
The local realtor is touring the unit tomorrow and YSS says we will have a marketing plan then. In the meantime, DH88 saw the surgeon yesterday and his valve replacement will be January 19. There are some risks but it's riskier not to have it
DH88 hasn't spoken with her in several weeks. Normally, she would be calling him with her sad stories and money requests but maybe YSS got thru to her. I think his dementia keeps him from remembering it. We had a scare New Years Eve night. He wanted to go to the casino but I didn't want to be on the road with the drunks so he went alone. Long story short, when he left, he couldn't find the car. There were about 3 hours when he had 2 different people helping him but he couldn't remember the description. I'd tell them but no luck. I called Security but still no luck. I was ready to come over there and was calling my SIL for a ride when DH88 finally found it. I'm not letting him go out alone anymore.
So, I'm sure we haven't heard the last of SD64. She's staying with her daughter, C, who cleans for me weekly so DH88 can get his weekly fix of SD64 news. Poor C, she's at her wuts end with SD64 but I think she got her in the waiting list for a Section 8 place. That was another lie SD told, she had never applied.
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Sounds like it is time to get cold turkey off of the Hope-ium and the Cope-ium and instead go with Confront-ium and Abandon-ium with SD-64. I am so sad that so much effort, so much $$$, and so much emotion has been wasted on this POS from hell.
Once you and DH cut her off completely, I forecast it will not be all that long before her own children do the same. Sadly, that can't happen soon enough.
Prayers for a great outcome with DH's surgery on the 19th.
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Don't forget Ignorium. That is an extremely powerful one to snort with the toxic.
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There are two main rationales that I use to steel myself to stand firm and show some tough love to SS. 1. It will help him build character. 2. DH and I need to protect ourselves from SS's and BM's drama. At 64, I think you can throw out the hope that she's ever going to learn from any of this. But you sure as heck have the right to protect yourself from SD's antics. Same for C. I feel sorry for her.
Sorry to hear about your DH. It's a good idea to not let him go out on his own.
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What a complete POS she is. Profiting over $400 a month for the past 5 years and still having the gall to call your DH poor-mouthing and asking for money. WTF has SD been spending her money on? I’m guessing drugs. Ugh.
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She's been collecting $960 a month for over 4 years while lying to us and whining for money continuously. I can only assume she's been buying drugs, she's certainly not paying bills. I learned there's a warrant for her arrest over some traffic issue she didn't resolve and I think her license is suspended. She's living with her daughter in a Section 8 apartment and nursing a broken shoulder and arm after a seizure caused by a Prozac overdose. Every time I think her situation can't get worse, it does..
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But her situation looks to be of her own making. She's 64 and I agree with Trying that she's never going to learn. You've gone above and beyond. Enough. Focus on your DH and yourself.
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I really can't understand why your DH has anything to do with his worthless daughter.
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She would be completely dead to me. And I'd look into whether any laws were broken. She deserves to be prosecuted for SOMETHING.
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I would cut all support of any form including verbal other than to say "That sounds painful." Or some other grey rock comment that she can interpret how she chooses. Not caring, not degrading. Just milk toast bland.
If she was extorting my money as she has, I would be on the phone to the police, the DA, the section 8 housing authority, etc, etc, etc....
My SIL reached out to my DW last night complaining that my wife had told her that taking her share of her STBXH's IRA would not be subject to early withdrawal penalties. Wrong. She told DW that it was her share of his 401K and never referred to it as an IRA. Early withdrawal from an IRA is subject to both taxes, and a 10% withdrawal penalty. Her STBXH offered her her share so she could have cash to get started in her new post divorce life. However, he is having taxes and the early withdrawal penalty withheld from her share. His sare will remain intact and not subject to immediate tax liabilities or penalties.
DW recorded the call which ticked SIL off when DW corrected her and played the prior conversation to prove SIL wrong and to demonstrate that SIL clearly articulated "401K" rather than "IRA". Apparently, there are difference in taxes and fees between the two. Do not mess with a CPA when it comes to their professional advice. At least not the one I am married to.
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