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65 Came And Went
I turned 65 this weekend. Now officially a seasoned citizen! From Chef? Nothing. No card, no flowers, nothing. He usually gets me a "funny" card and a "card from the cats."
I'll be returning the favor in March. Lately he's been giving speeches about how women age so much more horribly than men...implications of how superior he is b/c he's 8 yrs younger than me.
Not surprizing since we have been roommates and biz partners only (with occasional benefits HIS way) for a very long time now. Hand holding in public went out the window 3 yrs ago. A peck on the cheek went away 5 yrs ago, hugging vanished 15 yrs ago.
There will be no divorce... we are too financially enmeshed. I'm glad I did my estate planning in 2024. I have ZERO doubt that if I fell seriously ill, he would either try and get rid of me or put me in a home (as long as he doesn't pay for it). He really has nothing of his own. He does have a good credit rating through me.
I've recently lost 20 lbs and now have a "movie star" smile. He's sporting a fatty liver beer gut. He has his grey goose martinis every night.
Anyway, I am looking forward to Thanksgiving to see Awesomeson, AwesomeDIL and AwesomeGD 4.5 yrs old! It's been a tough year with family illness and the neighbor's sudden death.
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Happy Belated Birthday!!! 
While I understand your reasons for staying with Chef, I hope you're happy despite his asshattery.
You deserve so much more than the crumbs he's given you over the years.
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Happy Birthday! Like you, my DH is younger - six years in my case - I am 68 and he is 62. I am sorry that the relationship brings you so little joy - try and find this for yourself in other things if you can.
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Happy birthday, ThinkThrice!!
For some reason, I thought you and Chef never married. My bad.
All these lovely ladies with younger men. I'm enjoying a FWB arrangement with Mr. Cutie Pie - 9 years my junior. The comments Chef gave you are just the kind of thing that would deter me from having a relationship with a much younger man. I'd be insecure about the "how women age" crap Chef is giving you.
Again, happy birthday. Chef can go pound sand. I hope you follow through on mirroring his behavior for his birthday.
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Happy Birthday!
When someone shows you who they are, believe them.
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Happy Birthday! I recently crossed the 60 threshold. I'm sorry Chef is such a buffoon.. you seem like such a great person and he is missing out on so much by not having a better relationship with his wife!
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Happy Birthday!! I’m sorry chef didn’t do anything for you.. hopefully you found some joy in your birthday.
- Rumplestiltskin
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Happy (late) Birthday! As far as “how women age”, that sounds like some incel/manosphere BS. These misogynists think that the fact that young attractive women often marry older guys means they are actually more attracted to older guys. Hint: these young beautiful models aren’t marrying the broke ones. They are attracted to something about them, though.
That’s a huge generalization, i know, but what i have noticed is that people age according to their genetics and lifestyle. At my last reunion, a lot of the women looked better than the men. But some men looked great, too. And some looked like they were 65 instead of 45. Something tells me you are aging better than Chef, despite being 8 years older, and he’s projecting his insecurities onto you. Don’t let him get you down! If your “outside” is half as sharp as your wit, you’re looking great!