It has been a FML week. 

To refresh, SDiablas26&28 have been staying away from our home for over half a year because they are ticked that I laid down simple boundaries. I won't let them boss me around in my own house or touch my things without asking.

They have used several tactics to stir up drama from afar such as inviting ONLY DH to go on vacation with them, (even tho they have had plenty of time alone with DH) mailing ONLY DH trinket gifts and asking DH to do favors for them. None of their tactics worked. DH said "No." He turned down all of their "offers." 

From the beginning my prediction was that after their attempts to start drama and refuel their drama-o-meter from afar are unsuccessful, then they will eventually come back to stir up trouble in person.

Well, over the past month or so YSD has been testing the waters, storing her things in our guest suite, lingering in the area doing short-term gigs and house-sitting jobs.

I guess YSD26 is tiring of the hard life hustle, ya know, actual work. She likely found out that when one is hired to house-sit, people actually expect one to do stuff for them and to sit your butt down in their house, not go away on weekend girlfriend trips or invite a bunch of vagabonds to party in their house. 

SDiablas recently came back into town. They spent a day with DH, YSD gave him the "poor me" victim sob story of how she is out of prospects and money. She claims that she applies for 100's of job and gets nothing. She wants to move in with us for a few weeks. She doesn't like the middle of nowhere area where BM lives so she doesn't want to go back there. (Even tho BM moved to the state that YSD PICKED to go to college.)

She claims she has an interview for a high paying short-term gig in our area so she wants to stay with us for a few weeks. This gig is not in her area of study and is HARD WORK so I am sure she won't last there for very long.

I told DH that it makes zero logical sense for her to stay here. How does she think it's going to work for her to live here when she doesn't like me?

DH and I had a long and heated discussion. Bottom line is he is insisting that he has to help her out. 

She has been here for 2 days. I hardly saw her other than that when she arrived, we waved at each other from afar. Fine by me. 

Today DH and I threw a dinner party celebration for my DD23. (Planned a long time ago.) Due to SD's past embarrassing behavior towards my DD, in front of my DD's friends, DD wasn't thrilled about diabla YSD being shoe horned into her dinner party. (and neither am I) However, being the gracious people that we are, we invited SDiabla to join. 

Here's the weird thing, for the most part, SDiabla acted like a fairly regular person at the dinner party. More so than I have perhaps ever seen? Has she been possessed?

She had a upbeat demeanor and even had an ok sense of humor. (Her "humor" usually tends to be badly disguised, passive aggressive insults or judgemental statements.) She was still annoying as far as being self-absorbed and talking about herself too much, taking attention away from others but she wasn't actively nasty and repulsive. 

I was still on edge due to SD's horrible past behavior and rotten personality. I very much want my DD to be able to enjoy her party. Fortunately, I think she did enjoy herself despite the stress of wild card SD. 

I don't trust SD, at all. It would have been more gracious for her to stay away from my daughter's party considering that they have no relationship, due to YSDiabla saying "I don't want a relationship with 'them.'" (meaning me & my kids) But she was there and wasn't completely awful. What the heck do you all STalkers think she has up her sleeve? Or could this be a genuine new leaf? 

I plan to stay disengaged, yellow rock. 

Should I be cautiously optimistic? 

Last edited by Meera (9/23/2025 1:03 am)