BM returned from her 3 week military reserves training over the weekend. DH and I had a BLISSFUL 3 weeks of no BM communication. Well, it's shortlived because now she is back to communicating with vengeance. Several useless emails have come in over the last 2 days.

DH talked to SS last night and SS was bragging about how they got to use priority boarding and all the "military perks" since BM is now a military member. I laughed. BM was gone for 3 weeks for training for the reserves. I barely consider that military service. What ticked me off though was that DH asked SS how wrestling has been going. SS said he hasn't attended in 2 WEEKS because they didn't want him getting sick before they traveled for BM's military graduation. So SS can miss wrestling for 2 weeks leading up to, then 3 days of school and wrestling, for BM's graduation, but he can't miss wrestling for Thanksgiving break, resulting in DH having to lose 4 days over Thanksgiving break to be made up later. SS made sure to emphasize that all the practices he missed were "preseason conditioning" compared to actual season, which starts this week. In my opinion, it doesn't matter. SS told DH that BM and GF haven't sorted out their Thanksgiving plans yet, so they don't know a pick-up/drop-off time for SS yet. I told DH, enough is enough, he emails BM and Thanksgiving plans are settled or we go back on the accomodations and stick to the CO and SS misses wrestling. I am sick of BM, GF, and their chaos creating chaos for us and I'm sick of giving them an inch for them to take a mile.

DH also realized that the "4 days" of makeup time BM offered in exchange for lost time over Thanksgiving break is actually only 2 days. BM is counting Friday through Monday as 4 days, but because she is dropping SS off at 8 p.m. Friday and picking up early morning on Monday, it is actually only 2 days. I asked DH if he wanted to call BM out on it, and he said "No."

BM emailed DH last night that SS will be doing rec soccer in the spring, not club soccer (which she asked for half of $1300 for a few weeks ago and we refused). Guess BM couldn't afford it without DH paying. Oh well, SS can do high school (which he already does) like everyone else.

I am so over all of it. I am so sick of being bothered by the double standards and the inconsistencies. When we need flexibility or accomodations, the answer from BM is always "No," but then she demands it and because we always try to do right by SS, we usually provide flexibility every single time. I can't tell you how many vacations, family visits, etc. we have had to plan around set pick-up and drop-off times, which has always been harder to do, because BM will never give an extra second of parenting time, yet she always demands adjustments. BM always tells DH that she is losing parenting time to sports, school, friends, etc. every single day as SS gets older, but BM fails to understand that she sees SS daily. When DH loses time, he loses full days out of only 6 weeks per year because of the distance BM created. It's not the same thing and I'm sick of her acting like it is. It never changes, so I should be used to it, so why does it still bother me?