Mother's Day is one of the biggest possible pitfalls of the year for SMs.  I'm glad yours went well.  That was a good idea calling a day ahead.  I heard someone refer to that as "Mother's Day Eve" and I thought that was a good way of spreading things out so nobody gets their feelings hurt because they aren't being celebrated on the exact day.

Kes wrote:

Sounds very typical of the kind of behaviour we came to expect from NPD BM.  If she knew or even suspected we were having a nice day she'd try to undermine it.  This even happened on our wedding day back in 2009, when she and her boyfriend had a physical fight and she rang DH to come and save her.  Needless to say his phone was switched off until the next day when he got her imperious and tearful message.  

This. Yes, typical. 

On our wedding day, I had to ask DH to make sure the skids turned off their phones because I figured mommy would be calling during the ceremony. When SD and I were out and about earlier, BM (who had been calling the skids incessantly all weekend) was frantically contacting her because . . . she got a flat tire (probably in her driveway. . . ha). WTF is a 15 yo who is 8 hours away going to do about that, BM? Even SD was upset with her mother over that one. I remember her saying, "She always tries to scare me." <---salvageable back then but DH didn't act. 

But I digress. 

NotYourAverage, you all handled it like pros! Sounds like you had a nice day! 

Lol I win the trophy for wedding drama. BM and GF were IN ATTENDANCE at DH and I's wedding. BM has a no contact order against my BIL for "sexual misconduct." BM claims that BIL is a sexual predator, which is hilarious because BIL has no criminal record, BM had never even met BIL when she made the accusations, SS has never met BIL, and BIL was living across the country for years at that time. The courts didn't want to get involved in the he said/she said, so they issued a no contact order between BIL and SS as a precaution.

Well, when BM found out BIL was attending our wedding and we were planning for SS (then 6) to attend, she went insane. Perfect power trip for a narc. It went to court. The courts granted that BM could attend to supervise or SS couldn't go. So we allowed BM to attend. Well since BM can't do anything alone, she brought GF. BM and GF spent the whole day, sitting in the corner, watching us happy and in love, celebrating with all of our friends and family. The look on BM's face was that of pure disgust.

The funny thing is, that 8 months later, during court proceedings, BM tried to bring up the wedding, accusing BIL of sexual misconduct AT the wedding, trying to force restrictions against DH. Well since BM was granted permission to attend the wedding to supervise SS, it only showed her negligence, not DHs. Our attorney argued "the sole purpose of her attendance was to supervise and protect SS from a so-called sexual predator, yet under BM and GF's direct supervision, SS managed to be molested?" Needless to say, she dropped her false allegations SO FAST.

CastleJJ wrote:

Lol I win the trophy for wedding drama. BM and GF were IN ATTENDANCE at DH and I's wedding. BM has a no contact order against my BIL for "sexual misconduct." BM claims that BIL is a sexual predator, which is hilarious because BIL has no criminal record, BM had never even met BIL when she made the accusations, SS has never met BIL, and BIL was living across the country for years at that time. The courts didn't want to get involved in the he said/she said, so they issued a no contact order between BIL and SS as a precaution.

Well, when BM found out BIL was attending our wedding and we were planning for SS (then 6) to attend, she went insane. Perfect power trip for a narc. It went to court. The courts granted that BM could attend to supervise or SS couldn't go. So we allowed BM to attend. Well since BM can't do anything alone, she brought GF. BM and GF spent the whole day, sitting in the corner, watching us happy and in love, celebrating with all of our friends and family. The look on BM's face was that of pure disgust.

The funny thing is, that 8 months later, during court proceedings, BM tried to bring up the wedding, accusing BIL of sexual misconduct AT the wedding, trying to force restrictions against DH. Well since BM was granted permission to attend the wedding to supervise SS, it only showed her negligence, not DHs. Our attorney argued "the sole purpose of her attendance was to supervise and protect SS from a so-called sexual predator, yet under BM and GF's direct supervision, SS managed to be molested?" Needless to say, she dropped her false allegations SO FAST.

Ok. My jaw is on the floor. I don't know how you all have done it. It would have been great (but, I know, time and money consuming) for BIL to have sued her for slander. That *^%ch needs a hard smackdown by someone. 

SD did manage to "ruin" our group wedding photos with her over-the-top purposeful pouting (which, in hindsight, was probably to please her mother, who did notify me that had perused all of our photos on the photographer's website, as the url had been given to the skids). . . but we didn't have a disgruntled psycho monster and her sidekick sneering throughout the celebration. They must have felt so out of place and seething over your joy--that's the only good thing about that. Wow. 

Last edited by MorningMia (5/13/2026 5:19 am)

"the sole purpose of her attendance was to supervise and protect SS from a so-called sexual predator, yet under BM and GF's direct supervision, SS managed to be molested?"

Lol!