Not step related, just life related.  As I know my reality in life isn’t amazing, my DH doesn’t love me and probably never did.  He equates being a good husband to going to work, and that’ it.  Everything else was always my burden to make it work. When I stopped doing all the work in the relationship we pretty much just became roommates, which is fine by me, but it still stings at times.
Sunday morning, I decided to sleep in since why not it’s Sunday, oh wait and it was Mother’s Day.  DH decided to get up early, good for him, except the a$$hole decides to make the bed I’m currently sleeping in, so I’m jerked awake by having the covers violently tugged off of me.  I was annoyed but decided to just ignore and go back to sleep.  Maybe 10-15 minutes later DH comes back in the room stomping and snorting and coughing then slams the bathroom door shut.  So fine I get up and go about my day.  BS calls me about something that is happening on his trip so I am in the process of trying to get him some information so I can help him get things sorted out.  DH who was outside working on the yard comes in and hears me on the phone with BS, so he instantly starts talking loudly “what’s going on!”  getting in my space and continually asking what’s going on.  I finally hand the phone to DH and say to BS here talk to your father.  BS explains what is happening and DH all pissy goes “Well I didn’t know any of this.”  BS goes “Oh mom hasn’t told you yet?”  DH finally admits he’s been outside working and hasn’t seen me this morning. 
So, I get that all sorted out and go about my day.  DH comes into the room I’m in and tells me he’s leaving, okay, no clue where he is going but he leaves.  After about an hour I tracked his location to my parent’s house, not sure why he didn’t tell me he was going there, but okay.  So, another hour goes by and DH shows up with my brother and dad.  My brother who lives in a different city had driven my parent’s home from a trip they had been on, but I didn’t know they had gotten in yet, but I guess they let DH know.   So, DH disappears into the bedroom and I’m chatting with my brother and dad just catching up when DH comes out of the room and they all stand up and say we are going to lunch and leave.  BD and I just look at each other like what just happened here.  I was obviously very hurt because I had no clue what was going on but was like well okay just roll with it.  DH finally comes home from lunch, and my brother just drops him off and leaves.  I had hoped that maybe after lunch he would visit me and BD who he hasn’t seen since January, but I guess not.   At this point I was just hurt and confused and decided to just act like everything was fine.  Later that evening I did reach out to my SIL to ask if I had done something to upset everybody and I just didn’t know what.  She said she didn’t know anything and ended up texting my brother.  He eventually reached out to me with a bunch of excuses: I didn’t seem interested in seeing him.  He thought DH had told me they were going to lunch; he figured I didn’t want to go to lunch with them.  He and my dad had decided on lunch while they were driving and didn’t think I would want to go.  Then he finally admitted he just didn’t think about me or BD and was sorry.  I just said thank you and moved on. 
Also, since I knew my mom was out of town and wasn’t sure when she was getting in, I texted her happy Mother’s Day and left her gifts and card at her house.  All I got later in the evening was a “thanks” text, like oh okay.