JRI, it's nice to read that the drama is slowly winding down. I hope your DH is recovering well. XX

Well, I hope things quiet down as you all suggest but I know SD64, she has several bombs awaiting her.  She might get thrown out of C's Section 8 place since she's there illegally and the waiting list for another place is long.  Then there are the two warrants out for her, both traffic related but her car registration is over due, requires payment of personal property taxes and I don't think she's maintained her insurance.   There are her. Numerous health conditions which she doesn't follow up on.  It goes on and on.  She will need to go and rent a storage unit and will probably have to move stuff out of the small one once SS58 stops paying.  C is getting sick of her, I heard the police were called over one incident.  Her other 2 kids are no contact.  You name it, she's messed up in that respect.  

BD says if SD shows up at the condo while they're working, she will call the police but hates to do so cuz with her warrants they'd probably take her and DH and I would end up having to bailing her out.  They've got a Ring installed for any possible trespassers, like C's ex, one of the tenants who was a problem to evict.  SD and C would let him back in, if they had access.  He's got several warrants out, too 

See what I mean about the other shoe?

Jail would not be anything new.  We've already bailed her out twice over the past 8 years.   It's never her fault, of course, all are sad .misunderstandings.  Cough cough.

The Legend of the Eternal S..show that is SD just lives on, unfortunately for you, and I am also have been very sorry that you still have to go through this ..over a 64 year old. I am glad that to hear that you are setting boundaries and refusing to not get int the middle of her never ending problems to "solve" I commend you for letting her to clean up her own mess, or not, send her the message that the gravy train  need to be over for your part
I have had to same choice with SD31 and her just as toxic "Mother" as well as all their never ending drama long ago even just for my mental health. Not my circus and its not yours either!  I would ask how SD got to this point, but see some of the same patterns already present in my own difficult SD who is on track to end up like yours in another 30 years, so the writing was on the wall based on my observations and own experience in my dealings. I see a similar pattern in that SD;s never had to be held accountable as they could always count on someone bailing them out and enabling for so long no matter what situations they get themselves into, because they could count on someone feeling sorry for them enough to try to save them from themselves. Hence why they are where they are now. 

JRI, the percentage of un-sharp tools must be the majority. Do any of us expect it to be so bad?
We certainly wouldn't be here. 

My chest always tightens when I read your posts about your SD. Same age as me. The behaviors are outrageous. I'm glad an ending seems close. I love the you do not respond to her texts and calls anymore. That is not mean...that is taking care of yourself. 

Best to you, JRI. And a big hug sent your way.

Yes, she is much more sly and crafty than her "poor me" act.  She is a master of manipulation.  I'm glad I jumped off the crazy train.  My only concern is protecting DH88.  He is still susceptible, will probably always be, to her "distress".  Yesterday, her daughter, C, was here cleaning during which SD always calls on C's (since he's not really able to answer his phone and I won't).  I only heard her last words, "whatever you can" after I think he asked "how much".  It's still a bummer but it's better than her being here in person weekly cleaning and making her begging, whining calls on other days.  Sigh ...

On a positive note, C is now working as a Walmart shopper and delivery person.  Prior to this, the two of them were living in C's Section 8 apartment on SD's disability and the $100 I pay C to clean plus whatever else they can scrounge out of others.  C doing this let's her set her hours and it pays daily.  DH said it wasn't much of a job but I said it's a JOB, better than none.  C seems enthusiastic, a good sign.

Thinktwice, I don't know how you stand it.  I definitely don't have it in me to be a landlord.  There's been so, so much to do to get the condo ready to sell after a bad tenant.  I thought about you during it all.  Thankfully, my BD and SIL did all the work, I just kept paying.  But I think you're .much more involved than I am.  I take my hat off to you.