I know that sharing quotes I come across isnt exactly creative or original thought, but figured it could still be useful in reframing our struggles with steps kids and offer insight,
I feel like I could have wrote this or any of us could actually, since this is exactly what experience in stephell has been like: 
"Some people spend their whole lives playing victims in situations they're in. But the truth is, they're not victims, they are products of the decisions they chose. 
Its not the situation, its the consequences of poorly thought out choices they made themselves. No one forced them.
They were warned, clearly and repeatedly. They just chose to treat it like background noise instead of reality right I front of them. But they were too proud to listen, too "smart" to discuss, too convinced to consider others. 
Confidence was high, awareness..not so much. At least that's what they believed back then.
Now, when its time to face the outcome, suddenly the Victim Narrative begins. The same people they ignored are now nowhere to be found. Turns out support has a memory, and it doesn't show up where it wasn't valued.
Funny how that works, Karma doesn't argue, it quietly keeps records"