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3/03/2026 3:12 pm  #1


HCBM ran off another one

So back in October I posted about basically internet vibes giving off that HCBM and her troll husband were no longer together.
I was right.

Over the weekend the woman I had seen him with online in various posts over the last nearly year, made them her profile picture with comments from several folks referencing them as "cute couple" etc.
We don't know if the kids know. One is at home but 20+ years old the other is nearing adulthood at home still. She will be down for Easter.

Would you bring it up to the kid or continue playing dumb even though it appears to be somewhat out in the open?
I didn't come from a divorced family and so I'm unsure how big a deal it is if your stepparent and your parental parent separate. The troll husband has been there a significant amount of time, but she is not a sentimental person or in my opinion very bonded to anyone. I can't imagine this helps the bonding aspect of her personality, but then again, my perspective on teens is they don't really care about things outside of their little friend world, if it doesn't really affect them much.

My gut tells me, DH needs to STFU but if there is any heartache or what have you, I'm sure he'd like to be there for his kid and let her know it's safe to talk to him about her feelings. 

Tell me your thoughts please. 

 

 

3/03/2026 4:11 pm  #2


Re: HCBM ran off another one

I would ignore it all. BM's relationships are none of you or DH's business and saying anything will make it seem like you are keeping tabs on BM. It's an overstep. I wouldn't say anything until/unless the kids bring it up to you.

Last edited by CastleJJ (3/03/2026 4:11 pm)

 

3/03/2026 10:41 pm  #3


Re: HCBM ran off another one

I wouldn't say anything.  As you know, the things we stepmoms say get twisted.

 

3/04/2026 7:02 am  #4


Re: HCBM ran off another one

I agree that it's best for no one to say anything, that things can get very twisted. 
I wonder if your DH can have a talk (in general) at another time about how SD can talk to him about "things." Ya know, in general   This can't be easy for SD.


When someone shows you who they are, believe them. 
 

3/05/2026 1:00 pm  #5


Re: HCBM ran off another one

JRI wrote:

I wouldn't say anything.  As you know, the things we stepmoms say get twisted.

100/% 

     Thread Starter
 

3/05/2026 4:15 pm  #6


Re: HCBM ran off another one

Mum's the word.  Stepmoms ALWAYS get blamed for being the bearer of "bad news."

 

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