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2/09/2026 1:32 pm  #1


Child reachs adulthood before graduation

What are your thoughts on a child that reaches adulthood (on paper - 18) but hasn't graduated yet...just due to birthdate and start date of school, as it relates to a CO?
 

 

2/10/2026 9:56 am  #2


Re: Child reachs adulthood before graduation

I'm curious more about the visitation during the last few months after turning 18 but before graduation. If mommykins tries to encourage munchkin NOT to come (would not surprise us in the least).

 It's been a challenge with this HCBM and every time she tries to say the child wants to end a visit early (we are long distance) come to find out it is the mom's idea not the child. I realize at some point the child becomes an adult and responsible for their self and needs to find their voice and speak up for themself, but we all know living basically full time with a HCBM, it is easier to disappoint daddy than to deal with the wrath of mommykins. 

Should we just plan on NOT having the child and be pleasantly surprised if they don't try and pull something? Or be ready with a strongly worded email if they attempt to cease the last remaining visits between 18 and graduation?

I'm so glad there is light at the end of the tunnel. Hopefully not a freight train. 
 

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2/12/2026 9:54 am  #3


Re: Child reachs adulthood before graduation

Child support /custody ends in our agreement if the child turns 18. However there is a clause that if they are over 18 and in school (high school or post secondary) then it remains in effect until the first degree or until they turn 23. Check to see what your agreement stipulates. Sometimes it's still in effect if they are still in school

 

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