Same here. I am greatly relieved, SDiablas's finally left our area and they are spending the holiday far away with BM. I hope they have the holiday they deserve together. 

This is somewhat random but I was just reminiscing about how a year or so ago DH spent a couple of weeks with OSD29 in a foreign country to appease her need for "alone time" with him. He got sick while away, long story short he was so happy to finally come home. Here's the funny part. DH took a bunch of videos of his time with SD. SD, who is a know it all, told him how to download his videos from the camera but as usual, she actually has no idea what she is talking about! DH, who is quite tech saavy, followed her (bad) advice. I have no idea why he listened to her. All of the videos were permanently deleted. There is no record that this trip every occurred. I do get some sinful pleasure out of this. Lol 

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Ugh, I hate it when people irresponsibly take on pet's they can't possibly care for.

That reminds me of when BM tried to give us her dog. The dog had hyper anxious energy because BM made the dog crazy like she is. DH said no thanks.

After that crazy dog died BM got another dog. Why??? Why get another dog when you tried to give away your first dog? Poor dogs. 

Merry wrote:

Same. It remains to be seen if there will be a phone call tomorrow. Bets? Anyone?

SS’s SO did text DH to thank him for the cookies I made, boxed, and shipped.

“Ok, DH. I’m going out for a bit. Do you need me to pick up anything for you?” My life goes on quite nicely.

UPDATE: SS did call DH on Christmas afternoon. Call lasted less than 3 minutes, but that was shockingly DH’s choice. And SD sent me a text thanking me for the cookies and telling me the grands love them. Nothing to DH. I don’t understand any of this.

As our old marriage counselor used to chant: You can't place logic on the illogical. I swear, we repeat that every so often! 
 

Kes, Irish Wolfhound?  You can't make this stuff up!

I know I am way more than late to this party over Xmas, but if DH even so much got a card this year, I have yet to see it. Usually he gets at least that much, only addressed to HIM ( noticeably my  name was left out which suits me these days honestly since I've been over the pretenses and performative sh!t, so I'm hoping SD got the message) gushing about ARE BOND ( mean OUR) like a 5 year old penned it instead of a grown arse 31 year old woman,  I don't even know if any communication was made at all between DH and SD or her spawn or if he got her any or them anything. I would normally feel bad and try to intervene or at least ask about that, but I'm done with that pretense too, acting like I felt like i had to play the Cruise Director, to be that glue that holds their relationship together especially over the Holidays. Nope. Didn't ask. Didnt care.

MorningMia wrote:

Good! Playing cruise director is exhausting, as you know. 

Lol.  For many years in our marriage my bride bridled at being the "cruise director".  The man-spective of "I'm fine with whatever you want to do" does not meld well when the aversion to being the cruise director kicks in.

If I get the look, I have learned to only say it once. In those situations, I make a suggestion then adjust as she engages.  I participate; we come to some mutually interesting option and tend to enjoy the activity together.  

Case in point.  We wanted to do something last weekend.  Something out and about, adventurous, and not over the top.   I suggested and we chose hiking at Cathedral Gorge State Park.  We had a great time.  We took a good friend of ours with us.  That friend has a well-developed Eeyore complex, so excitement and demonstrative enjoyment is not in his repertoire.  Even he had a good time.  Though the nearly 2hr drive after hours of hiking was not a big hit for any of us. Including me. I did all of the driving.