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Baby Squash is Late
Or so it seems. The Girhippo is not bragging on social media about her first grandchild yet. Baby Squash was due on Monday. For those unfamiliar, this is the first child of OSS29 AKA Pumpkinhead and his wife.
It's probably a good thing that Baby Squash didn't come a couple days early because that would be the same birthday as the HousesHitter YSS23!
When Baby Squash does arrive, I'm sure there will be plenty of enmeshment comments by the Gir Clan. There have already been several enmeshment comments such as demanding that Pumpkinhead's wife come over so that the Gir and her Coven Aunties can rub her belly. Most likely they'd cast some sort of spell, truth be told.
Against everyone's better judgment, I did casually mention to Chef about Baby Squash and he seemed rather uninterested. Just mentioned "well good luck to them" something of that sort.
ION DGD 4.5 started Montessori Preschool this week and everything went fairly well considering that she has never been in daycare before. Scheduled a FaceTime tomorrow to catch up on the first week of school. If anyone wants to see a recent photo, please PM me 
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I'm sure the social media feeds will explode the minute BS is born, mostly Gir touting how the baby looks just like her or like Pumpkin Head.
Congrats on DGD marking a new mile stone, they grow up so fast.
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When we had the first GSKID I shuttered at what would now be expected of me- luckily they assumed that the thing that would be punishing the most is to not allow me access or some sort of role. To my great relief I have remained untethered from the mess and unable to be manipulated with the use of a baby/child. Now everyone is bewildered why I am no contact and my response is you guys wrote the script, I followed the instructions and It's worked out WONDERFUL for me- no responsibility, no expectations, no throwing money at babies/gSKIDs that are not my own- it's created a wonderful clean break in my world and oddly I LOVE IT. I don't see it changing - I have no bad feelings for the child but I literally have no feelings at all. I wish them well but not my monkey, not my circus.
I hope baby squash does not become a problem for you.
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I think we will have the same setup thankfully bc the ferals continue to beer bong the Gir's koolaid well into their adulthood.
It's always a threat though bc Chef is a kid worshipper.
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ImperfectlyPerfect wrote:
When we had the first GSKID I shuttered at what would now be expected of me- luckily they assumed that the thing that would be punishing the most is to not allow me access or some sort of role. To my great relief I have remained untethered from the mess and unable to be manipulated with the use of a baby/child. Now everyone is bewildered why I am no contact and my response is you guys wrote the script, I followed the instructions and It's worked out WONDERFUL for me- no responsibility, no expectations, no throwing money at babies/gSKIDs that are not my own- it's created a wonderful clean break in my world and oddly I LOVE IT. I don't see it changing - I have no bad feelings for the child but I literally have no feelings at all. I wish them well but not my monkey, not my circus.
I hope baby squash does not become a problem for you.
I'm with you. Wonderful, isn't it? I have zero relationship with the growing baby squad and never will. I have zero feelings about them--I don't know them. I wasn't willing to go through Round Two of trying to have relationships and getting slapped in the face with dog poo.
When someone shows you who they are, believe them.
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The "people train you on how to treat them" model is absolutely bang on accurate. Everyone needs to listen and learn though sadly on this topic it is difficult to avoid the feel it part.
On the GSKid topic. My son is my parents only GSKid. They have 3 other BGKs and a BGGK. My parents are the only "REAL" GPs that my son has though he has two full sets of BGPs. Interestingly, he wants little to nothing to do with either set of the BGPs, half sibs, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc... For a number of reasons. Primarily his philosophy on them all and on SpermLand as a whole is that he does not like how any of them treat his mom, or him. He has forbidden his mom to ever again live in SpermLand or heavily integrate back into her BioFam. His comments on this are related to the age difference between his mom and me. 12yrs. She had him when she was 16, I was 28 (*He's my SKid so I was not cruising day cares for my next wife). He knows that they will in all likelihood lose me with both of them still comparatively young. Home for them, if my SS gets his way and it is clear that his mom agrees with him, will be where my family is.
His GSPs (my parents) are his safe space and his people, as are his SUncle, SAunt, SCuzs, and now the light of his life, his GSCuz (My niece's DD) who at 18mo old is entirely enamored with my Bride and my son. I am of interest to her because my GNiece knows I belong to her two current favorite people. I'm okay with that. I'll take whatever crumbs that I can get. My niece refers to her cousin (my SKid) as Uncle with her own DD. That gave me a lump and the start of some onion cutting over the holidays. Seeing my multi syndromed SKidult (ADHD, PTSD, Anxiety) son be fully himself in a safe place with his people while being tormented and stalked 
by an 18mo old ankle biter was my best gift over the holidays. It was good to see an inkling of him start to shine through after a couple of very challenging years.
I am absolutely of the mind that family is incredibly important. However, that is not a universal all-inclusive truth nor is is a right of birth. They have to earn their importance with their consistently demonstrated quality. A Step can be incredibly worthy and important, while a Bio can be incredibly unworthy and unimportant. Those positions as family and the related status are earned.
My mom and my dad are my SKid's true people. He is theirs. Even when he was a toddler it was clear that he was theirs, and they were his. Anyone questioning that did not enjoy the result of their questioning. Step has never been a primary part of our blend vocabulary. Though it was never hidden and everyone knew. It is just not a prefix that has ever had a place in our family dynamic beyond a descriptor.
"Those types of people" are what they are and sadly they often propagate what they are to their subsequent layers of progeny. Escape is rare and it is difficult.
Take care of you in all of this.
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When we had the first GSKID I shuttered at what would now be expected of me- luckily they assumed that the thing that would be punishing the most is to not allow me access or some sort of role. To my great relief I have remained untethered from the mess and unable to be manipulated with the use of a baby/child. Now everyone is bewildered why I am no contact and my response is you guys wrote the script, I followed the instructions and It's worked out WONDERFUL for me- no responsibility, no expectations, no throwing money at babies/gSKIDs that are not my own- it's created a wonderful clean break in my world and oddly I LOVE IT. I don't see it changing - I have no bad feelings for the child but I literally have no feelings at all. I wish them well but not my monkey, not my circus.
I hope baby squash does not become a problem for you.I'm with you. Wonderful, isn't it? I have zero relationship with the growing baby squad and never will. I have zero feelings about them--I don't know them. I wasn't willing to go through Round Two of trying to have relationships and getting slapped in the face with dog poo.
EXACTLY @MorningMia- I saw the writing on the wall. I would be treated poorly again by a second generation. NO THANKS. Go on your merry way and I'll go on mine. Best decision was sitting this out. I still encourage DH to have a relationship with SKIDs and GSKIDs but I play NO role. To be honest they don't seem to care much so this has worked out perfectly for everyone. I spent a decade+ pouring into vast darkness receiving almost nothing in return. The GSKIDs are going to be just like their parents - really really squeaky clean nice to the outside world and horrible monsters to stepmom behind the scenes. Reminds me of that thread by Judy on "selectively nice" does not mean you are actually a good person. I don't need to be subjected to generation 2 of selectively nice people. I feel free and like you - there is NO feelings of missing out or any of that.
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It is sad when a line is so noxious that a pregnancy is an event of sorrow and anxiety for those not in that line.
Here we go again is a legitimate concern for the victims of a noxious gene pool. We can hope that the new parents will see who and what they are and commit to doing better with their own child(ren). Unfortunately, the progeny of these gene pools rarely mutates spontaneously to avoid the results of how their prior people have lived and be better or even moderately less noxious.
My wife is one of the mutants/alien implants. She truly is exceptional and a complete outlier of all three sides of her family. We thought her BFF/unicorn cousin was one as well, sadly that was not the case. She was a facade of quality but a manipulator, a liar, and a thief under the facade. I have to be very careful on that topic as unicorn cousin is DW's childhood person and though DW knows reality regarding her cousin, it is a very sensitive history for her to face. That UC has passed to a long grueling cancer battle makes the history even more upsetting to DW. UC has a tribe of folks, family and friends, who worship the facade she constructed and hold her in high regard. I, am not one of them. My IL clan on any side has a highly evolved ability to ignore reality, embrace the facade, and stand on a position that is not based in reality. My black and white perspective goes more readily to "Other than than Mrs. Lincoln, how was the play?". Reality and facts matter. Ignoring them is delusional and self harming.
IMHO of course.
I hope that Baby Squash is proven to be a mutant or alien implant.
Take care of you.
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It is sad when a line is so noxious that a pregnancy is an event of sorrow and anxiety for those not in that line.
Here we go again is a legitimate concern for the victims of a noxious gene pool. We can hope that the new parents will see who and what they are and commit to doing better with their own child(ren). Unfortunately, the progeny of these gene pools rarely mutates spontaneously to avoid the results of how their prior people have lived and be better or even moderately less noxious.
My wife is one of the mutants/alien implants. She truly is exceptional and a complete outlier of all three sides of her family. We thought her BFF/unicorn cousin was one as well, sadly that was not the case. She was a facade of quality but a manipulator, a liar, and a thief under the facade. I have to be very careful on that topic as unicorn cousin is DW's childhood person and though DW knows reality regarding her cousin, it is a very sensitive history for her to face. That UC has passed to a long grueling cancer battle makes the history even more upsetting to DW. UC has a tribe of folks, family and friends, who worship the facade she constructed and hold her in high regard. I, am not one of them. My IL clan on any side has a highly evolved ability to ignore reality, embrace the facade, and stand on a position that is not based in reality. My black and white perspective goes more readily to "Other than than Mrs. Lincoln, how was the play?". Reality and facts matter. Ignoring them is delusional and self harming.
IMHO of course.
I hope that Baby Squash is proven to be a mutant or alien implant.
Take care of you.
I love the alien implant analogy. It's kind of like when I was growing up and wondering if I had been kidnapped. LOL.
When someone shows you who they are, believe them.