What is it with young adults these days?  I moved out at 17 and would never have dreamed of asking to move back in more than 10 years later.  I know the Diablas aren't asking to move in, but it sounds like you thought it might happen.  I hope the "short period of time" that they are with you, passes quickly and there are no dramas.  

Kes wrote:

What is it with young adults these days?  I moved out at 17 and would never have dreamed of asking to move back in more than 10 years later.  I know the Diablas aren't asking to move in, but it sounds like you thought it might happen.  I hope the "short period of time" that they are with you, passes quickly and there are no dramas.  

I know right? Adult children moving back in seems to be the norm these days. I keep seeing articles about it.

It *could* work in nuclear families but it doesn't work in a step-situation with SK's that have been poisoned by years of BM's toxic brainwashing. 

I was out of my parents house by age 15 because I went off to boarding school and I was completely out by age 20. I also cannot fathom asking my parents to move back in a decade+ later. 

I fear they may ask to move back in because 1. YSD29 already asked to move back in with us this year. - Fortunately she only stayed for 3 weeks before quitting her job and leaving. Also fortunately we were gone for nearly the entire time she was here. It worked out nicely. 
2. They have no home base and are whining to DH about how hard it is to move from place to place. 
 

Things are not going quite as rosily as I had hoped and been lead to believe. Instead of going far, far away this holiday season, the step diablas are lingering in a nearby area before they will be traveling out of state for a short period of time. Who knows what they will do after that? 

I am not sure if this miscommunication occurred because in addition to having poor communication skills they are often purposefully vague and obtuse with DH, or because he misunderstood. Not that it matters, the end result is the same. They are close by and making demands.

So far DH is bending over backwards to accommodate them. I am staying out of it and enjoying some time to myself. As long as it isn't directly impacting me, I don't really mind. DH however is tired. He has already told me that he had to ask them, "Do you want to make me miserable? Because if you do, keep doing what you are doing." Poor DH. I hope he can reign them in. He said they seemed a little cowed by his question and stayed quiet this time instead of their typical chorus of "What did weeeeeeeeeee dooo???"

Last edited by Meera (12/21/2025 8:12 pm)

Meera wrote:

Things are not going quite as rosily as I had hoped and been lead to believe. Instead of going far, far away this holiday season, the step diablas are lingering in a nearby area before they will be traveling out of state for a short period of time. Who knows what they will do after that? 

I am not sure if this miscommunication occurred because in addition to having poor communication skills they are often purposefully vague and obtuse with DH, or because he misunderstood. Not that it matters, the end result is the same. They are close by and making demands.

So far DH is bending over backwards to accommodate them. I am staying out of it and enjoying some time to myself. As long as it isn't directly impacting me, I don't really mind. DH however is tired. He has already told me that he had to ask them, "Do you want to make me miserable? Because if you do, keep doing what you are doing." Poor DH. I hope he can reign them in. He said they seemed a little cowed by his question and stayed quiet this time instead of their typical chorus of "What did weeeeeeeeeee dooo???"

It's a good "learning time" when we step back, like you have done, and allow our husbands to feel the full direct impact of their little darlings' special personalities and behavior.