Clove, 

It is good to see you and hear the updates on both cases.

Keep up the great work dealing with all of this.

Take care of you.

So glad you made it out of that mess alive. So many women don't. And spoiler alert, they ALL maintain their innocence. If they admit it it's because they were backed into a corner and had no other choice. I hope it all turns out in your favor. 

Aniki-Moderator wrote:

CLove, I was going to email you this weekend.  You must have been reading my mind!

Good grief, is stbxh gaslighting himself??? Or is he loudly proclaiming his innocence in the hope that some fools will believe him? Regardless, I look forward to the day you tell us how long he'll be in jail. But not as much as the day your divorce is final. ❤️XX

Answer: When I came back to the house, he had "disappeared" an entire large bottle of Jameson and I had an ambulance bill in his pile of mail to give him. So. I think the drink and drugs in his system blotted things out of his memory.
Hes making a lot of noise and actively trying to recruit folks in our community. I have texted some privately. Im not going to go silent. Ill go QUIET. Big difference I think youll agree.
Unfortunately he's being charged with a misdemeanor and Im told that means no matter, what no jail time.
AND part of his claiming innocence is he doesnt want to do any anger management classes. THATS a minimum for when you hit someone, plus illegal for the prosecution office to grant. SO he wasted his defense attorneys time and his own money asking for something he will never ever be granted...wtf.
 

I'm so relieved that you are out of that mess safely.  I am more glad that he will far more likely than not be returning to prison sooner rather than later. Though even sooner would be better.

Be kind to yourself and take care of you Clove.  These things can take time.

For me, 35yrs ago, from filing to final divorce was 4mos.  Texas can make these things happen relatively quickly.  Particularly when one party is trashy and difficult and the other is reasonable.  The system seems to rally for the good side quite a bit of the time.  In my divorce she was pregnant by a cheat buddy. That did not sit well with the Judge.  With your STBXH's pending attempted murder trial, I am hopeful that the Judges hearing your cases will rally in support of you.

Live well Clove.



ETA:  Never mind on prison.  I saw above that the ADA indicated that he would not get jail time.  That is unfortunate. IMHO.

Live well Clove.

Last edited by Rags (11/21/2025 12:55 pm)

Stay strong! Doing well! 

Clove!!!!!! So happy to hear from you. Stay strong regardless of conviction status. Let him cry and fuss but off to Anger Management classes, he goes!!