I'm almost 81 and DH is 88.  He has 2 forms of cancer, both in remission, ongoing dementia and a faulty heart valve which he has refused to treat by getting a valve replacement.

We have 5 kids in our blended family and to say we have been thru everything is a gross understatement.  Behavior issues, police trouble, runaways, lying, theft, drugs, alcohol, everything you can use imagine.  They're finally all launched into their own crazy lives.  DH and I have been so relieved not to be parenting anymore.

As DH's condition has declined, the 4 kids who live here have started helping us.  SD64 cleans weekly and cuts his hair and nails.  SS62 does all our yardwork and snow removal plus heavy work inside.  DS61 does various projects and upgrades and all technology issues.  DD59 is my emotional rock and her husband does electric work.

SS58 lives out of town but when he learned that DH was refusing his valve replacement, flew in last night to attend DH's cardiologist appointment  today.  He was able to get thru to DH who is now scheduled for the pre-op procedure.  He plans to return for the replacement .

I can hardly believe the way they've all come thru. I start to cry when I think about it after everything we've been thru.  I just wanted to put this out there so some of you see it can work out.