Welcome... 

Sometimes no help is better than help that comes with strings.. or emotional baggage etc... 

Hope your hubby has a great recovery

Good to see you here and sorry about your DH's health issues.  

This was my situation exactly. I can barely lift the wheelchair into the car, but at least it got us out of the house. Two stops was my limit.

At one point SS was going to drive in to “set the doctors straight.” And that was about as close as we got to skid interest, much less help.

I suddenly found myself in the caregiver role with no real help. It was hard, lonely, and I felt completely incompetent. And resentful. And guilty. Friends did what they could, but there wasn’t much they could really do.

Recovery was long, slow, painful — for us both. But today the wheelchair is stored and DH is using a cane and very independent. He’s done well, worked hard. I hope decline is a long way off, but sooner or later it will come, and perhaps suddenly.

PM if you want to talk.

Julie, late to the post since lots of stuff has been going on here. Sorry to hear about the health problems with your DH.  But yes it is better than having esstranged skids around!

Chef is going in for shoulder surgery on the other side just before Christmas so this should be an absolute hoot.

I have no doubt that should I fall into ill health because I am quite a bit older than Chef, he will send me out to pasture as we are now basically roommates and business partners only.

I think he's losing it as well. He normally takes half and half in his coffee and then when we run out I put regular whole milk into his coffee.  This was just the other day and he said I want it black instead-- don't put milk in my coffee!   

Well fast forward to today, I ran out of half and half again and according to his wishes I gave him black coffee.  He demanded that I put milk in it!!

He's going to be 58 this March and is already acting like a crabby old man for the last 6 years.