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2/11/2026 11:44 am  #1


Mail and Joy Thief

Ok, so this happened last year when YSD27 was crashing in our house for a few weeks while DH and I were gone but I think it's still kind a funny. 

YSD tried to pick up our mail from the PO. The astute postal worker turned her away. Little Diabla-cita went crying to DH that the mean 'ol mail lady scowled at her. The post lady was astonished at her audacity to attempt to pick up mail from a box that she doesn't own. 

This is a separate issue but she used our address for her new job. It kept being sent back with "return to sender" written on it. (Not because the PO wouldn't deliver it but because our address was written incorrectly. Most likely SD's fault.) 

YSD said to DH, "I told them that I am your daughter and they STILL wouldn't let me pick up my mail." She also suggested to DH that it was somehow MY fault.

The only part of this that really ticked me off was DH was kind of wishy washy about it all. I had to explain to him that the PO will not give mail from our box to an ADULT that is not listed on our box. So stupid. It has nothing to do with me. 

On another separate fun note, DH and I ran into someone from the neighborhood that is/was? friends with BM. BM has few friends and I am sure this person is nice to BM because they feel sorry for BM, not because she is at their same level in any way, shape or form. This person is actually very down-to-earth, warm and polite. They told me they've heard "A lot about" me from BM and SDiablas. This confirms what I already knew. BM and SD's STILL go all over town sh*t talking me and DH to anyone who will listen. I feel sorry for this person because BM has commandeered their spouse to do all kinds of errands for her. Being the nice people that they are, they try to help BM out. Knowing BM, the attempted help isn't good enough and is met with dissatisfaction and complaints. I wonder if they're on to her yet? She uses people. 

Last edited by Meera (2/11/2026 4:03 pm)


I'm loving midlife - Me+era 
 

2/11/2026 4:52 pm  #2


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Lol. Ya gotta love it when karma and others waft the stench emanated by noxious failed family Xs and spawn back in their failed adult faces. 

You clearly consume a huge space in BM's and the Diablas' skulls.  

I think a short script of quick elevator throw away sentences on BM and the Diablas issues to drop in any small-town interfaces where the casserole squad brings them up is in order.  e.g.  "Isn't it sad that BM and her daughters are so stunted in their adult lives and take advantage of people?  Tsk, tsk."  Then smile and flounce off tossing an over the shoulder wave and a "Buh-bye. Tell BM/the Diablas Hi from me the next time you see them.  Have a great day!"

 

Last edited by Rags (2/11/2026 4:53 pm)


If you can't listen, learn, & think, you will have to feel. -  WLR
 

2/12/2026 9:58 am  #3


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Rags making that kinda comment would make it sound like BM and the diablas are stuck in Meera's skull....

 

2/12/2026 10:38 am  #4


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Yeah the good ole' blame game. You existing @Meera allows for them to blame you for anything and everything- One SKID in his late teens (at the time) told my parents that I ruined his professional football career. My poor mom had to hold back laughter until she realized he was serious. What an over inflated load of garabage- no offense to the SKID but he's not tall enough, fast enough, athletic enough, strategic enough, didn't have the drive/ambition/ or willingness to sacrifice to be a pro FB player - he is just not genetically built nor is he mentally strong. But oh yes it's stepmom's fault for your shortcomings. I was so angry at the time but he did me a favor my parents had a chance to listen to his delusions and realize what he's all about.

As for talking sh** I have been on the receiving end of that too- all you can do is take a breath and realize what these people are (as you mentioned users). Obviously that down to earth lady must be realizing somethings awry that she was willing to speak to you either to double down on what they are saying or re-evaluate their statements. I am guessing she's re-evaluating the BS. 

Either way - not your monkey, not your circus. Rise above that. 

 

Last edited by ImperfectlyPerfect (2/12/2026 10:39 am)

 

2/12/2026 11:17 am  #5


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ImperfectlyPerfect, spot on with "Rise above that."

Meera, you're better than that. Don't lower yourself to their level and play their games. It's what they want and it is so NOT worth it. 

 

2/12/2026 7:19 pm  #6


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Stepmoms are blamed for all sorts of ridiculous things, but postal regulations is a new one!

 

2/12/2026 8:11 pm  #7


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Merry wrote:

Stepmoms are blamed for all sorts of ridiculous things, but postal regulations is a new one!


If you can't listen, learn, & think, you will have to feel. -  WLR
 

Yesterday 12:41 pm  #8


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Merry wrote:

Stepmoms are blamed for all sorts of ridiculous things, but postal regulations is a new one!

We could get together and write a best-selling book about it. We're scapegoats. 


When someone shows you who they are, believe them. 
 

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