Meera wrote:

DH has had to deal with her on his own. He's already complaining. 

Call the waaaaaaahm-bulance!
I generously give her one month.

Aniki that is a very generous guess. If she lasts that long, then she will have nearly fulfilled the role because it is a temporary position.

Rags, I think you may be right that they have high hopes.

My concern is that she will quit after 2 or 3 days, and we will be stuck with her twiddling her thumbs at home. She’s already setting it up that the people there are “weird.”

SD is good at getting the job. It’s the keeping the job that needs improvement.

Last edited by Meera (9/26/2025 2:26 pm)

I am DYING at your SDiablas.  How does one get through life like that?  Endless drifting grifters. Barf.

Maybe they want more women? It sounds like a male kind of job. Despite anti-DEI rhetoric right now, I think employers still want diversity. My bet is one week.

It's great that you can laugh about your SD. I'm dealing with SS issues this weekend, I feel it as a heavy weight. I wish I could just laugh off SS's antics instead of feeling butt-hurt. Any advice?

Is it possible she was hired at Amazon or a similar distribution center? Your description sounds like what my DS was hired for as a temp at Amazon. Sometimes a tough, physical job can redirect a person's outlook.  But wondering how long she will last is the story of my SD39...has never held a job longer than 2 years, at most.  Thankfully she does not live with us.  I sincerely hope your SD can hook into this work, but why "long hours"?  Eight hours can seem "long" to some people.

I’m always amazed at stories of entitled 20 something’s who believe the world owes them a living - especially when they want to do ‘fun’ jobs at a level that only comes with experience!
My SD is 23 1/2 years old and hasn’t worked a single hour/day in her life - my DH has all but cut ties with her as after years of cajoling, encouraging and confrontation every which way, she doesn’t do anything. Her BM with whom she lives runs around after her and enables her….it’s never going to change

Meera, I'm not familiar with your stepfamily story.  Do you basically get along with your SD who is 26?  When you and she interact, what is it like?  And where is her mom in this picture?

Just knowing she'd most likely be coming back into my home again would be so hard for me if she was not respectful to me.  That's why I'm asking.  Even if she is respectful to you, I'd have trouble with a 26 yo not managing her life more maturely.  Has your husband set boundaries with her?  Thanks for sharing your experiences!

Aniki-Moderator wrote:

3 whole week? Wow!

Glad you and the hubby had a fantastic trip, Meera! 

Thanks Aniki 
 

Meera,  3wks. For YSD that has to be close to some sort of record.

I am glad to hear that your trip to Europe together was enjoyable and that it got you away from the noxious YSD during most of her 3wk laborer job.

I was in or guest cottage tidying up before the holidays.

I am starting to realize what a bullet I dodged that SD26 "hated" her temp job and left our house of her own free will.

It turns out that YSD is back to house-sitting as her primary residence. I am anxious that she will soon tire of moving around and of people expecting her to do things a certain way in their house. I don't want her asking to come back here. 

She moved so many things around. It's like a treasure hunt trying to find our things and then putting them back where they belong. So annoying.

This is the first time she's pulled this particular mini-wife type stunt. Who wants to have another woman, that doesn't like you, redecorating any part of your house? I am a tidy person and I have things the way I like them. 

 

Meera wrote:

I was in or guest cottage tidying up before the holidays.

I am starting to realize what a bullet I dodged that SD26 "hated" her temp job and left our house of her own free will.

It turns out that YSD is back to house-sitting as her primary residence. I am anxious that she will soon tire of moving around and of people expecting her to do things a certain way in their house. I don't want her asking to come back here. 

She moved so many things around. It's like a treasure hunt trying to find our things and then putting them back where they belong. So annoying.

This is the first time she's pulled this particular mini-wife type stunt. Who wants to have another woman, that doesn't like you, redecorating any part of your house? I am a tidy person and I have things the way I like them. 

 

I just got an update about YSD26. As suspected, she is whining to DH about house sitting. It's too haaaaard. Her hosts expect her to actually DO STUFF while she is freeloading in their home. Lol She is being asked to do things like give the cat it's medication or walk the dog. Also, the host's house isn't as comfortable as she wants it to be. 

Dh just told me that younger Diabla's most recent temp job ended. (It lasted maybe 3 weeks?) She was offered to stay on in a different position but she declined. 

When DH told me this I was internally rolling my eyes but I did not say anything negative about SD to DH. A few weeks ago when SD wanted to live with us I did open up to him about how I really felt. I told DH that YSD has never kept a job for longer than a month and that she needs to stick with a job so that she can earn enough money to be financially stable without living with us. I have had no say in her job hopping ways but we should have a say if it means that she wants to live with us. (DH seemed surprised. Not sure why he needs to be informed of this ... those rose colored glasses are thick.) Now that she declined their offer, I hope that message is still rolling around in his head somewhere. 

This position is probably the closest to doing "real work" that SD has ever done. For sure that is why she doesn't want to continue. 

The fact that she was offered to stay on probably means there is a desperate shortage of manual labor workers. I doubt it was because she shined bright like a diamond. lol