SD went home on Saturday after being with us for 2 weeks. Overall the visit went pretty well despite BM upsetting SD with her "joke" about santa forgetting about her. The day before SD left to go back to BMs I found out that there is this app called Zigazoo which I had never heard about, but basically it is a tiktok for kids. SD told me about it and said how it is only for kids and adults get kicked off it.

Afterwards I did some research and the app claims to be so safe and secure. Well, in less than 10 minutes I was able to make an account for "my child" and skip the need to upload a selfie of me and "my child" so that my account cannot create an videos or post any. After that I have full access to view all these kid's profiles and all of their content. Luckily I am not a pedophile, but it really was not hard at all so if your kids are on that app, just an FYI. Easily found SD and her sister's accounts on there. It looks like BM just lets both children have their phones all day, every day and free to video and post whenever. DH is not saying anything to BM about it because there is nothing in our CO that prevents SD from having an account like that and BM is not going to change anything. Let's just say it is disappointing that BM is allowing the children to act and dress as though they are 16 and not 9 and 11 like they really are. 

BM is very clearly dating this new man that we had heard about before the divorce between stepdad and BM was even filed. According to SD this man is just BM's "friend," but BM posted about how he is her love, etc. So basically not really any changes with the visit, same sh!t, different year. 

**EDIT: I also forgot when we were just reviewing the questions with SD they were going to ask her at the airport, I asked her what her mom's name was and she said her first name and I said okay and what is her last name? SD goes "I have no idea." ... 

Last edited by NotYourAverageStepMama (1/05/2026 4:27 pm)