Same. It remains to be seen if there will be a phone call tomorrow. Bets? Anyone?

SS’s SO did text DH to thank him for the cookies I made, boxed, and shipped.

“Ok, DH. I’m going out for a bit.  Do you need me to pick up anything for you?” My life goes on quite nicely.

UPDATE:  SS did call DH on Christmas afternoon. Call lasted less than 3 minutes, but that was shockingly DH’s choice. And SD sent me a text thanking me for the cookies and telling me the grands love them. Nothing to DH. I don’t understand any of this.

Last edited by Merry (12/26/2025 11:22 am)

I don't think we've ever had a Xmas card from either SD.  DH phones them up and gives them large amounts of money.  On the Xmas call with SD29, he learned that BM has got herself an Irish wolfhound.  This is a woman who supposedly works full time - when is she going to walk it the 4 miles per day that such dogs need?  It will be lucky to get fed.  She also has 2 cats.  Stupid cow. 

Last edited by Kes (12/25/2025 8:34 am)

This year - No calls. No cards.
OSD rarely calls. Almost never on holidays. Last call was months ago to tell DH about her husband’s colonoscopy. She was making him (64) take care of himself so he would not die like her mom (died at 50 after colon cancer found stage 4). Implication - you killed mom.

YSD is furious with me. They live an hour away. Her husband did something that got him arrested. It made their local tv news and is on the internet in multiple places. Nothing was said to us and I didn’t know until I saw it on the internet weeks later. I say anything until six months later when he was arrested on another somewhat related charge. Since he didn’t make bail this time and was sitting in jail, I called her. Told her I knew and offered her funds to see someone to protect herself financially (thinking divorce but didn’t explicitly say so). YSD said she was embarrassed, didn’t want us to know, and planned to get a divorce. I said the don’t want anyone to know ship had sailed, I hadn’t told her dad and would not, and the financial offer was still available for the lawyer fees. She refused saying she’d borrow from her 401k. Since then she’s ghosted us. DH is still blissfully unaware and assumes this is part of the usual speak to us, don’t speak to us cycle.

Kes wrote:

I don't think we've ever had a Xmas card from either SD.  DH phones them up and gives them large amounts of money.  On the Xmas call with SD29, he learned that BM has got herself an Irish wolfhound.  This is a woman who supposedly works full time - when is she going to walk it the 4 miles per day that such dogs need?  It will be lucky to get fed.  She also has 2 cats.  Stupid cow. 

I wonder if it's a toxic BM trait to also use animals as props and not treat them well (sort of like they did with their husbands? heh heh). BM here has been through numerous dogs. They poop in the house and they're gone (vs. anyone working on house training). It is really disgusting. And wolfhounds are HUGE! 


 

MorningMia wrote:

Drip. . . drip . . . drip . .  the well apparently finally dried up altogether. 
Nothing from skids. Which is fine. It shows we've gotten to "that place," (knock on wood) the place of not playing games, of acceptance that things are the way they are. There is definitely a feeling of peace about it. 

Feels like they finally admitted defeat in a battle they started and wanted to keep going. We didn't join in. 

Merry Christmas! 
 

 
To me this sounds very refreshing- no pretense, no pretending, no underlying tension and animosity just plan old neglect. 10 years ago I would have thought- @morningmia this is TERRIBLE. Present me thinks this is what peace look like. Congrats on this new milestone. Happy New Year!