Thanks Kes, We had a lovely, peaceful and relaxing Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday. I enjoy the food, friends and family and it's less commercialized than a lot of holidays. 

I am psychic, just as predicted, the Diablas have requested "one on one" time with DH. The good news in that he is going to travel to them so they won't be staying in our guest cottage. Although, it's not completely a lucky escape because OSD29 is back in our town to see some of her high school friends that are home for the holidays. The good news is that she is only staying with us for 1 night. She is bumming a ride off of DH to get back to where YSD27 is staying. DH will spend "alone time" with them for a couple of days and then return home. Both SD's have no permanent  home base. I know they have living arrangements in place for the next couple of weeks but who knows after that? Hopefully they go back to BM for x-mas instead of dropping in on us. --- Although revered BM never wants them and has traditionally pawned them off on us ... all the while undermining our authority and claiming to be BM of the year. BM's latest thing is she charges the diablas rent to stay with her at her house. Lol I wish DH would do that. 

I plan to be civil and superficial with OSD29. I will be home so she knows that I'm here and she has to deal. If she chooses to stay with us, fine but she is not taking over or moving in as a mini-wife.



 

Yesterdays wrote:

The one on one thing, omg. In some ways I would be happy with that so long as they all left together and I got some alone time. I wouldn't agree to be pushed out of the home for them to do that. I wonder if my husbands kids (18/20) will ever want to grace us with their presence here. So far they have not made mention of wanting to do so and I've stayed out of it.

My husband and his kids seem fine with a simple holiday meetup day on bio moms city each year where they hangout, exchange presents and go for dinner. I basically avoid the topic although maybe one day they will be back.

Your OSD... omg mini wife...my worst nightmare. I remember DHs kids coming here right as we moved in and SD wanted to immediately rearrange my cupboards... They had quite a few unsavoury behaviors while here. I guess their mom tolerated all these things over there. I was in for a rude awakening when they moved in.

(their mom was very virtuous in their minds also..) she allowed them to be quite feral with no household rules basically.

I hope for your sake they continue to go spend time with your DH elsewhere. 

OMG rearrange your cupboards? I would immediately put my foot down on something like that. It was bad enough that the last time she was here, YSD27 rearranged a few things in the cupboards and bathroom in our guest cottage. I put everything back. It wasn't too bad but still annoying.

Same deal with my SD's. They run amok, do whatever they want and boss around each other and even tell BM what to do. Then they all fight like cats and dogs. I am not playing that game. 

Update on OSD29. She arrived while I was out doing errands. I come home to find her eating a big piece of Thanksgiving dessert that DH gave her. (I made it.)

I make sure my presence is known while she is here. I want her to know that her and YSD27's antics (schemes) are not causing a divide or drama between DH and I. There is no better way to annoy her than a life well lived with my DH.

She was yammering on about her travels as if she is the most interesting person in the world and telling DH where HE should travel. I sat down with them for a minute, politely waiting for her to shut-up and take a breath and then I told DH that I was going out to visit a friend and I'd be back a little later. I asked DH to complete a chore for me. OSD29 piped up with a snarky comment about how he'd have to suffer if he didn't complete the chore to which I replied to DH "Don't worry if you forget. I can finish it when I get back home." (Because I honestly don't care if he did forget and I don't do tit for tat like petty OSD.)
 

Last edited by Meera (12/01/2025 3:54 pm)

How did I miss this? Congratulations! 

Your handling of las diablas is perfect! 

MorningMia wrote:

How did I miss this? Congratulations! 

Your handling of las diablas is perfect! 

Thanks Mia, I feel pretty good about it but don't want to jinx anything. They are transient after all. 

SD's like to triangulate to cause divides which probably gives them a sense of control. YSD used to tell DH that she likes me but not my BK's ... then SD's decided to switch things up and told DH they like my BK's (awesome kids, who wouldn't like them?) but they don't like me.

My DD gave OSD a breezy "hello" as she came in the door and passed right by her, not stopping to take the bait of SD pretending to be friendly. Lol

DD lost patience for the diablas too. They must think she is dumb to think she will want to be in cahoots with them when they are disrespectful to her Mom. She remembers how when she was younger they were super rude to her too. And of course anyone can see that they bring drama whenever they are around.
 

Last edited by Meera (12/01/2025 11:47 pm)