First, hi!
Second, make sure you're sitting down before you read this. 



All set?
It was one of the best weddings I've ever been to including my own. 
And BM?
I decided early on to kind of be nice to her because I knew she had no one from her side coming so she'd be alone. I put myself in her shoes and said "fark it, I'm being nice". And my Mr? He did the same. Weird? yes but worth it big YES. At the set up the day before we tippy toed with kindness. Just little things like saying hi and being friendly. Then at the rehearsal we walked down the aisle right behind SS escorting her. I took the third seat so my Mr and BM got the best views of their son's vows. And at the rehearsal dinner she came to us and asked if she could sit with us. 
Wedding day we got to the venue early so my Mr could do the Dad of the Groom stuff. She arrived after we did so I called her into the are the bride and her crew were in. 

Shockingly, it went really really well and you could see the tension leave SS's body when he realized we were making sure she wasn't standing too alone. Even the Mr's family, her ex-in-laws were polite and kind to her. 

Will we be getting together for fondue parties and wine tastings? no. Do I hate her, still no. But most importantly, my Mr realized the fire of hatred he had been keeping stoked has gone out. We won't be friends but we aren't enemies any more and that I think was the best wedding gift we could have given SS. 


I know my story is an oddity but for us it worked out the way it should.